Housewife.. Or more?

So I was thinking the other day about what my role as a wife, and stay at home mother. I really started thinking to all the women I speak to day in and day out. And it always comes back to "he never helps" or "he didn't do the one job he's responsible for after he got home from work". And here's my response "Why should he?", honestly why should he come home from work and clean? As a stay at home wife/mother it is my job, to take care of the house, dinner, laundry and children. Do I always enjoy it? No, who does? Do I still ask for help? YES! But it is NOT he's responsibility to do house work, once he comes home when I've been home all (part) day. Now I do have bad days where I just need help, and he jumps in and helps every time.
Now, for those who thinks I sound "old fashion" or "caveman" talk, that ok for you but hear me out. And this is my personal opinion and you don't have to like it, and you don't have take it as a life style. But I believe that when you become a stay at home mom/wife, the house, laundry, children, and food becomes your responsibility and your full time job! It to me clearly, in my mind, laid out in Proverbs 31  We where designed to be in this position. The days that you spend cleaning the house, and your husband comes home, does it not feel rewarding to see him happy? 
With that said, think about what happens when you take the stress of housework off his plate? You become more than just a housewife, you become more to him. You become a vital part of his life in whole. You start allowing him to become more important in your life as well. You stop being a nag and more of an encouragement, "Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife." Proverbs 21:9 & "Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife." Proverbs 21:19 (yes God felt it was THAT important he talked about twice in one chapter!), Your also stop stressing because you have things in order and can focus on your relationship. I encourage you if you want to, to step up and start becoming more than just a housewife. Become more of an encourager and a happy wife.

Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character

                              Proverbs 31:10-31

^10 [b]A wife of noble character who can find?
    She is worth far more than rubies.
¹¹ Her husband has full confidence in her
    and lacks nothing of value.

¹² She brings him good, not harm,
    all the days of her life.
¹³ She selects wool and flax
    and works with eager hands.
¹⁴ She is like the merchant ships,
    bringing her food from afar.
¹⁵ She gets up while it is still night;
    she provides food for her family
    and portions for her female servants.
¹⁶ She considers a field and buys it;
    out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
¹⁷ She sets about her work vigorously;
    her arms are strong for her tasks.
¹⁸ She sees that her trading is profitable,
    and her lamp does not go out at night.
¹⁹ In her hand she holds the distaff
    and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
²⁰ She opens her arms to the poor
    and extends her hands to the needy.
²¹ When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
    for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
²² She makes coverings for her bed;
    she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
²³ Her husband is respected at the city gate,
    where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
²⁴ She makes linen garments and sells them,
    and supplies the merchants with sashes.
²⁵ She is clothed with strength and dignity;
    she can laugh at the days to come.
²⁶ She speaks with wisdom,
    and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
²⁷ She watches over the affairs of her household
    and does not eat the bread of idleness.
²⁸ Her children arise and call her blessed;
    her husband also, and he praises her:
²⁹ “Many women do noble things,
    but you surpass them all.”
³⁰ Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
    but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
³¹ Honor her for all that her hands have done,
    and let her works bring her praise at the city gate

Blessings,

Tina